Intimacy generally refers to the feeling of being in a close personal association and belonging together. It is a familiar and very close affective connection with another as a result of entering deeply or closely into relationship through knowledge and experience of the other. Genuine intimacy in human relationships requires dialogue, transparency, vulnerability and reciprocity. Source Wikepedia
By following the definition above then, I conclude that the first and primary intimate relationship is with oneself; to try and find another intimate relationship to put o top of it is bound to fail;..... why? because if you cannot be familiar to yourself, if you have no knowledge of yourself, and specially if there is no transparency within yourself; How on earth can we even dare to experiment onto some other one?
It has taken a long time for me to really be introspective, I guess is the turning of the years.